This research reveals that when we’re authentic, rejection isn’t as piercing. Adamma’s insights reveal that we can achieve this resilience by decoupling rejection from its baggage of self-condemnation. Don’t take it personally. When our friend brings up an issue, when we invite a new friend out and they turn us down, when we haven’t heard from a friend in a while, it doesn’t mean that we’re unworthy, wrong, or unlovable. As Adamma puts it, “I don’t take a lot of things personally. I take people’s opinions or critiques or feedback as valid, so I can do something about it, but I try hard not to
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