In friendship too we can choose to confront issues instead of letting them fester until they’re beyond repair. The problem is we too often dismiss gripes with friends, hoping we’ll get over them instead. We think we’re too sensitive or making a hubbub out of nothing. But the only litmus test for whether an issue is worthy of being addressed is if it continues to bother you. You can tell a friend you’re upset about anything—their being chronically late, or mispronouncing your name, or making an offhand comment. There are no objective criteria for whether something is worth bringing up aside
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