She said that if a friend was in crisis and she was too, instead of telling the friend she’s too overwhelmed to speak to them, she’d say, “Thanks for texting me. I’m really sorry you’re going through that. I’ve been having a hard time too. Do you want to FaceTime to cry together?” Mutuality win-wins mean even if I am embroiled in my own crisis when my friend needs me, I can still provide some empathy while also getting the space I need to recover. That might look like “That’s so awful. I’m so sorry. I’m glad you reached out. I can chat later tomorrow.” Consider how that rings differently than
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