as Priya Parker, author of The Art of Gathering, put it, “Connection is threatened as much by unhealthy peace as it is by unhealthy conflict.” We need to express our anger, because after socking it away for too long, we may awake with the powerful urge to leave even the best of friendships. If we had allowed ourselves anger earlier, we’d have noticed the junctures where we could have acted so it wouldn’t have come to this. If we had allowed our anger, we would experience an opening to repair and recalibrate the friendship and it could achieve new depths of dynamic safety.
