The urge to earn love from those who mistreat you doesn’t materialize from thin air. It likely helped you survive in the environment you grew up in, just like it did for Melody. But now, you don’t just need to survive. You need to thrive. Thriving means you don’t invite destructive people into your life because they give you the opportunity to earn love. It means people who love you freely are no longer suspicious and those who withhold are no longer motivating. It means you are generous because you love someone and want to show it, not because someone doesn’t love you and you want to change
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