We have this sense that people’s truest selves are revealed during conflict. When endings are explosive, we rewrite the friendship, see it as perpetually defunct, our friend as treacherous all along, ourselves as naïve parties. This tendency is driven by a negativity bias, our tendency to weigh negative information more heavily than positive. I caution against this because, building off what I shared in the authenticity chapter, our truest selves are not revealed during conflict. Often our most triggered selves are.
