Even while co-regulating, secure people don’t back down from their needs. They don’t apologize for something they shouldn’t, as anxious people might. If a friend says, “You’re being too sensitive,” they might say, “No. This is important to me.” They advocate for themselves, while also considering the other’s perspective. They embrace mutuality, asking themselves, If we are a team, and both our needs are equally important, how do we solve this problem in a way that honors both our needs?
