You’re not creating problems in the friendship by talking about them because whatever hurts you hurts your friendship because you’re a participant in it. You’re opening up dialogue, then, to address your hurt, but also to make the friendship better. Before you approach your friend, you should ask yourself these questions: What do I hope to achieve through this conflict? What’s my role in this problem, and what’s my friend’s? Do I see the conflict as a way to make the friendship better? Can I calmly approach my friend? Am I ready to balance sharing my perspective with taking my friend’s?
