It’s not that we don’t love our friends like we do our spouses. In fact, one study finds that women experience more intimacy with their same-sex best friend than they do with their lover, and both genders report having more in common with best friends than with lovers. But when it comes to friends, we feel more pressure to conceal that love. Expressing it requires us to transcend homohysteria by challenging homophobia and acknowledging that sexual attraction isn’t conveyed by the entire gamut of affectionate behaviors. Transcending it also looks like giving ourselves permission to express to
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