“how a great deal of our perceptions of our experiences and the trauma we’ve been a part of creates these fantasies of alternative paths our lives could have taken. We preserve worlds of what could have been. Worlds of what-ifs. It’s easy to get trapped there. What if I hadn’t decided to become a doctor? What if I’d chosen debt over the scholarship? What if I’d been standing there instead of the person I’m now trying to resuscitate? “These alternative realities can claw at us almost as much as the memories of what really happened. But we have to find those sticking points. Ease
