they may be walking down the aisle. they may be welcoming tiny new feet into their home. they may be making big purchases. they may be anything but alone. they may seem like they have their life fully together. they may seem like their list is full of check marks. but do not feel like you have to accomplish everything from a list that does not even fit what you want. do not feel like you have to answer the “when are you going to do it?” remarks.