Unfortunately, threatening divorce is probably the single most hurtful thing you can say to him - especially if it was a tactic to get him to be more present in the relationship. The threat of abandonment can shut him down in a profound way because what he hears is, “I am leaving and I do not love you anymore.”42 The result of an exit threat is rarely the outcome you were seeking. Instead, the threat destroys trust and inflicts injury to the core of his being. You risk causing damage that is incapable of being repaired.
