Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be

by Becky Kennedy

focusing on a child’s impact on us sets the stage for codependence, not regulation or empathy.)

kids take in their environment through the lens of “What will maximize my survival?”

“Children have a developmental tendency to translate experience into identity: I am not loved becomes I am unlovable, and a bad thing happened to me becomes I am bad.” In other words, kids take experiences with their caregivers and infer larger messages about who they are.

Research has established that, oftentimes, when kids are struggling, it is not therapy for the child himself but coaching or therapy for the parent that leads to the most significant changes in the child.

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