Good Inside: A Guide to Becoming the Parent You Want to Be

by Becky Kennedy

A child is hesitant to join a birthday party Circuitry for consent: “You’re not so sure about playing with the other kids right now. That’s okay. Take your time.” Circuitry for self-doubt: “You’re being ridiculous, go join your friends.” A child is hurt by a well-meaning joke Circuitry for consent: “I can see that felt bad to you. I believe you. I won’t say it again.” Circuitry for self-doubt: “Oh my goodness, you are so sensitive. Pleeeeeease.” A child says he’s full at dinner Circuitry for consent: “Only you know your body, so you’re the only one who can know if you’re full. Here’s the thing: once dinner is over, the kitchen is closed. Maybe do one check-in, see what your body is saying, and double-check you’re good for the night.” Circuitry for self-doubt: “You can’t be full. You hardly ate. If you want to leave the table, you have to have eight more bites.”