Partner reaction #2: Wow, Becky had a big reaction there. I didn’t like it. I wonder what was going on for her in that moment. It’s not okay to throw a cereal box—she probably knows that—so something powerful must have been happening for her. She’s a good person, so she must be really struggling. I’ve struggled before too, and in those moments, I wasn’t at my best. I’ll go to her and say, “Hey, that was a lot. And yet, you must have had something big happening for you, because I know you don’t like reacting that way. So let’s talk about it—I care more about what was going on for you than I do
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