Why is this strategy so effective? Why does it give so much bang for your buck? First, when you share a story of struggling in the same way as your child, you’re essentially saying, “You’re good inside. You’re lovable. You’re worthy. You’re a good kid having a hard time. I see that goodness under your behavior, because I am good and I had the same struggle.” You can’t say that to your child directly in this moment, because it would feel too intense and they’d reject it, but by telling this story about yourself, all these themes come through.
