I remember once watching my older son wrestle with whether he would share his snack with his sister. I felt myself wanting to say, “Your sister would share with you! Come on, do one nice thing!” but I also heard another voice crying, “Most generous! Most generous!” and instead I said to him, “I know that you have just as much sharing capacity and generosity as anyone else in this family. I’m going to leave the room; you and your sister can work this out.” I
