When we feel like we’re not being acknowledged, we can’t solve problems. So, in this power-struggle moment, your foremost goal should not be to solve the problem. The first goal is to re-find your “two things are true” mentality, because as soon as we feel truly seen in our experience and our desires, we can let our guard down—after all, as humans, we are less invested in any specific decision than we are in feeling seen. This is almost always what matters most.
