remember, the pathway that ends in regulation (i.e., fewer tantrums!) starts with understanding and connection, and telling the story does exactly this. Now, you might sense a softening or an opening to say, “Hmm, it feels so bad to not be included. I wonder what you could do if that happens again when Dante has a friend over . . .” This is fine, it will do no harm. But remember that the key element is the connection and storytelling, not the solution.
