The cyclone of our needs for love and belonging and safety—when unmet—can create an emptiness at the center of our relationships that grasps the energy of everyone else’s goodness and insecurity to fill the void inside. When we live in the enemy mode of the sympathetic nervous system state, we make the lives around us a silent storm. The cyclone of our unsoothed cries to be loved can end up becoming a hurricane of hustling and then hiding any evidence that we’re part of a system that leaves destruction in our wake.6
