Somehow, we’ve decided shepherding means expecting sheep to be self-sufficient. Somehow, we’ve erased “seeking” from the job description and replaced it with more preaching. And when preaching is the main form of pastoring we’ve encountered, it’s no wonder that “preach to yourself ” is the main way we know how to relate to our pain. Like sheep stuck in thick brush, our bodies were not made to preach our own way out of emotional pain. It’s no wonder that when stress is shouting in bodies, we end up sinking in pits of shame.