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John Delony
Keep moving. Keep fighting. Run, run, run. Do it all. And it was a lot.
What’s tricky about stories is how they move in and out of our lives unnoticed. Stories are like the air we breathe—and most of us have no idea we’re inhaling them. Stories are our operating systems—always running in the background.
Imagine my shock when I realized I was running hard but going nowhere.
“courage, whether the soldier’s courage in risking death or the child’s in going off to school, means the power to let go of the familiar and the secure.
We’ve been born into a story that technology can fix everything. From aging to food to friendship to disease—technology can, will, and must save us.
communication is not connection. Communication is the transfer of information. Connection is the mutual weight-bearing of one another’s burdens and the celebrating of one another’s joys.
You have to create distance between your thoughts and your body.
We unplug by plugging in.
The goal of grocers and food companies is not to satisfy hunger and nutritional needs. The goal is to keep you eating and eating and spending and spending.
Three out of four Americans are pre-diabetic or dealing with metabolic syndrome.
food is a numbing agent—an addiction and a medication.
Interestingly, it was 1910 when an article published in Ladies Home Journal officially recommended people no longer
the terms “parlor” or “death room,” labeling them as echoes of the past. Can you guess what the article recommended people call that room instead? The living room.44 Now every home has a living room in it. There are no more parlors.
magazine fed us a story declaring death was over. A magazine told us we...
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but his death was anything but tragic. His life was a triumph and a gift, and his passing was both inevitable and beautiful. He won. And so did we.
as we stopped needing kids to assure our survival, our kids took on something more sinister: they became our identity.
In a few short years, my students had come to believe they had “friends” because they knew some information about people. They thought they were connecting with those people. The
friendship was about enduring the awkwardness and ugliness of human interaction and choosing to remain anyway.
Being honest and vomiting up feelings are important, but they should not be the highwater mark for friendship.
Presence is. Showing up is. Being fully known and still fully loved is.
Our brain’s goal is not thriving. Its goal is not dying.
I’m still self-deprecating in the “hit yourself before someone else can hit you” kind of way.
Trauma is cumulative.
We are who we are because of our relationships.
As the great line goes, we don’t need to be fixed . . . we need a witness.
I had mistaken wholehearted living for open-access living. I had no boundaries.
thought I was a victim of my thoughts. In fact, I thought I was my thoughts.
Control what you can control and set the rest down.
When you are changing your actions, comfort can become the enemy.
You’re always doing something—something that moves you closer to the person you want to be, or something that moves you away from the person you want to be.
Discipline is just a decision, made over and over again.
Goal-chasing sprints are short-lived because you’re not going anywhere or becoming anything. You just want to make little tweaks on the edges. You’re just changing up a few things.
Eric Thomas says, “If you have to talk to more than three people about the same problem, you don’t want help, you want attention.”120
Wellness is an approach to life. It is an action, a way of being—not a destination.127
Wellness and wholeness are ongoing.
