Start with Hello: (And Other Simple Ways to Live as Neighbors)

by Shannan Martin

In the words of philosopher Simone Weil, “Attention is the rarest and purest form of generosity.”

Dominant culture comes with the built-in advantage to choose our own comfort over the dignity of others.

Rather than being overwhelmed by the ever-changing “rules” of language and power of naming, we could receive it as an opportunity to embody the grit of tenderness and nurture a healthier, more inclusive community. It is a lot to keep up with, but what an honor to keep trying.

As we work toward the safety and needs of others, it’s vital we reexamine our long-held beliefs, especially those we inherited or absorbed from majority culture without the benefit of personal critical thought.

Sister Helen Prejean said, “Being kind in an unjust system is not enough.”

Expect mistakes. It’s important we stay focused on educating ourselves so that we don’t end up running around recklessly, making a bigger mess of things. Even still, we need to make peace with our inevitable blunders along the way.

Take your time. Jot some notes. Once you’ve identified what gets you right in the feels, keep going. Are there any obvious bridges between that issue/idea and people already doing the work? Find them. Say hello. Resist the urge to start something new and join something that’s already on the move. If that feels bigger than what you’re ready for, start by following two new voices on social media who speak into the particular issue of your heart. If they’ve written a book or designed an instructional course, buy it. (And then read it.)