She’s someone who has a considerable stake in being considered “generous,” never once considering that generosity is itself a privilege people like me can’t afford, because the moment we give a millimeter, our massive territory shrinks to a whisper of land. Our generosity can never be virtuous; it gets repackaged as naïveté, then gets used against us to justify whatever crimes are rained down on our heads next. In the same way, no generosity shown to us is ever real generosity; it’s the flowers a husband brings his wife to smooth things over after giving her a shiner; the jewelry a cheater
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