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We cannot change what we are not aware of, and once we are aware, we cannot help but change.
You are not fundamentally broken.
You are not a problem to be fixed but a human who is meant to be understood.
The only constant in life is change; growth is inevitable.
People have a hard time letting go of their suffering. Out of a fear of the unknown, they prefer suffering that is familiar.
Suffering is not the same as pain,
“In life, we can’t always control the first arrow. However, the second arrow is our reaction to the first. The second arrow is optional.”
pain is unavoidable,
The problem wasn’t the pain itself; it was in my reaction to the pain.
how long are you going to keep holding on to the story you don’t want to keep reliving?
One who looks around him is intelligent; one who looks within him is wise.
“Thought is not reality, yet it is through thought that our realities are created.”
Reality is what is happening right now. It is the objective circumstance that is occurring without any meaning or judgment attached to it. And so what we experience is not reality itself but our perception of reality. Any meaning or thinking we give something is self-created and our choice.
It’s not the events that happen in our lives but our interpretation of them that causes us to feel good or bad.
Our feelings come not from external events but from our own thinking about the events.
The root cause of our suffering is our own thinking.
By changing our thinking, we can
change our reality.
Event + Same thinking = Same experience Event + New thinking = New experience
Event + Thinking = Perception of reality Event without thinking = Reality Event without thinking = Peace
But how do I turn the thinking off?
“Do you know what is really making you angry?”
I think and think and think, I’ve thought myself out of happiness one million times, but never once into it.
If we keep allowing this thinking to direct our lives, we will stay in a state of fight or flight, anxiety, fear, frustration, depression, anger, resentment, and negative emotion because
the mind views everything as a threat to our very existence. And it is this tendency of our minds that leads us to the torturous thinking at the root of our suffering.
but to let go of the illusion that we’re not already enough as we are
