Don't Text Your Ex Happy Birthday: And Other Advice on Love, Sex, and Dating

by Nick Viall

I can’t control what they do. I can only control what I do.

Go for grateful over hopeful.

Figure out how much hope you have for the relationship compared to how much gratitude you have for what you’re receiving from the relationship.

Great way to tell if you stay or go..or comunicate your expectations

gratitude is the only feeling that can’t turn toxic. Because gratitude is feeling thankful for what someone or something has given you when they expected nothing in return—like making you feel loved, or listened to.

“Remember that everyone is annoying.” There isn’t a single person that doesn’t get on someone else’s nerves from time to time.

Instead of panicking when you come across behaviors you don’t like, you have to figure out what’s really important to you in a relationship.

Messy is one thing, but let’s pay more attention to how someone treats you and how they communicate and how they deal with disappointment. That deserves more weight than how good they are at folding laundry.