Don't Text Your Ex Happy Birthday: And Other Advice on Love, Sex, and Dating

by Nick Viall

Eventually, you need to stop being an option to people and see who’s willing to make you their choice.

all you are doing is compromising the boundaries you wanted to set with a person you wanted to be in a relationship with.

Her main problem was that he didn’t want to commit to her, full stop. Her secondary problem was that she was convinced that wasn’t true.

To which I would say, you didn’t ruin anything. You just got an answer you have been trying to avoid.

While the meet-cute makes for a compelling moment in any love story, it’s not an indicator of the likelihood of success in the relationship.

Your relationship doesn’t care. It won’t impact how well you communicate with each other, how empathetic you are with one another, or how deeply you feel. The only really significant impact of a compelling meetup story is that you might ignore real issues about your compatibility early on, because you put too much value on fate and that great story

Chemistry with someone is a great feeling, and it can certainly make dating easier and a lot more fun early on, but too many of us will use that feeling of chemistry to ignore the boundaries we try to set for ourselves.

Staying in a relationship where you spend a lot of time hoping for lots of things to happen is not a good place to be.

Everyone makes exceptions to their rules when they want something enough.