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reliving our past blunders and choices over and over, it becomes an emotional obstacle. We end up creating a false narrative in our heads. This narrative tries to convince us that we’re incapable of making good decisions and therefore undeserving of the things we desire.
Too often, however, we cling emotionally to our past circumstances. We refuse to move on because we feel we can effect change that allows us to reclaim them.
We transition from the bargaining stage of grief, where these events seem wrong to us, to the acceptance stage, where the pain of regret and disappointment can finally dissipate.
The effort to justify our decisions and actions springs from our ego. And that’s a clear sign that we should evaluate our emotions surrounding the situation in question.
If you cannot recall the last time you were happy, you may be clinging to a painful memory, deeply-felt loss, or regrettable and consequential decision made with false expectations.
When we detach ourself from the past, we alleviate this physical pressure.
resentment. When we let go of the past, we give ourself permission to no longer focus on pleasing others. Instead, we can focus on making decisions that prioritize our own needs and make the best use of the resources at our disposal.
Clinging to a painful past prevents us from finding joy in ourself. We begin to look externally for even a modicum of happiness.
When we fixate on others’ perceptions of us, we implicitly allow them to make our decisions for us. Our life is no longer our own. And our emotional health becomes dependent on what others think of us.
When we stop caring that other people live better lives (often an illusion in and of itself), we start to appreciate the aspects of our own life that truly matter to us.
Instead of showing ourself compassion, we continue to hold ourself accountable for the past. We refuse to forgive ourself.
Our insecurity causes us to overanalyze our thoughts, decisions, and actions under the harsh, unforgiving light of whether we have others’ permission.
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