It falls on us to live in that culture and (though for some select few, the more precise and indeed preferred word may still be or; those who are safe enough to have a choice in the matter) to dismantle it: to take it apart, piece by piece, and expose its carefully curated silences, concealments, and confidentiality clauses to light. To revoke that culture’s too-long-enjoyed permission not to know. Most of all, to give up our permission not to know—not to know that reality, which is the enemy of the powerful, and which is all there is for us to love: there where loving is a kind of knowing,
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