You know how there’s always a shape in your head, a shape of something you’re supposed to be, something you were born to be. There’s that shape, and then there’s the shape of who you actually are, a different shape. And the distance between the two shapes, between who you are and who you were born to be, that’s where all the discomfort is, all the shame, all the sense of being not quite right, never quite good enough. The
