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How did I get here?
Do I need to worry? What do I need to do?
What have I done? my inner voice shouted, before switching into my inner frenzy maker.
Should I call the alarm company? Should I get a gun? Should we move? How quickly can I find a new job?
How can the voice that serves as our best coach also be our worst critic?
What if they don’t believe me again? she wondered, her inner voice providing an anxious running commentary as the examiner looked at her inscrutably.
The big question, then, is this: When chatter strikes, how do we gain psychological distance?
Thinking, Fast and Slow,
What about a bodyguard? I thought to myself. One who specializes in protecting professors.
“illeism,”
the Gallic Wars,
Could talking to yourself as if you were someone else be its own form of distancing?
What is required of me in these circumstances, and do I have the personal resources to cope with what’s required?
Active Listening → Empathy → Rapport → Influence → Behavioral Change.
Does the talking cure, as it is sometimes called, truly cure?
Lesson learned: Start believing in rituals.
Why do some tools work better for us than others? We each need to discover which tools we find most effective.
Use distanced self-talk.
Imagine advising a friend.
Broaden your perspective.
Reframe your experience as a challenge.
Reinterpret your body’s chatter response.
Normalize your experience.
Engage in mental time travel.
Change the view.
Write expressively.
Adopt the perspective of a neutral third party.
Clutch a lucky charm or embrace a superstition.
Perform a ritual.
Address people’s emotional and cognitive needs.
Build a board of advisers.
Minimize passive social media usage.
Use social media to gain support.
Create order in your environment.
Increase your exposure to green spaces.
Seek out awe-inspiring experiences.
sojo.net/articles/transcript-barack-obama-and-god-factor-interview.
10% Happier: How I Tamed the Voice in My Head, Reduced Stress Without Losing My Edge, and Found Self-Help That Actually Works—a True Story (New York: It Books, 2014).
selfcontrol.psych.lsa.umich.edu/wp-content/uploads/2017/08/Why-does-a-broken-heart-physically-hurt.mp4.
“Self-Reflective Consciousness and the Projectable Self,”
Dimensions of Thought Flow in Everyday Life,”
“The Phenomena of Inner Experience,”
“Phenomenology of Future-Oriented Mind-Wandering Episodes,”
Hearing Voices, Demonic and Divine
https://www.presidency.ucsb.edu/node/324136/.
Viktor Frankl’s Man’s Search for Meaning
