If the person asking for forgiveness hasn’t done all of this? The victim has no obligation. None. Bupkes. Nada. Zilch. This is where we often see forgiveness weaponized. In the wider secular culture, in Christian culture, and yes, even in Jewish culture where we use Maimonides and really should know better, there is often pressure on victims to forgive even when the perpetrator hasn’t done all of the work, or even any work at all.
