What do we do with these pesky feelings that seem to be both a burden and a delight? We feel them. We can feel. It’s okay to feel our feelings. It’s okay for us to have feelings—all of them. It’s even okay for men to feel. Feelings are not wrong. They’re not inappropriate. We don’t need to feel guilty about feelings. Feelings are not acts; feeling homicidal rage is entirely different from committing homicide. Feelings shouldn’t be judged as either good or bad. Feelings are emotional energy; they are not personality traits.
