But to love without judgment transforms the lover. To love as God loves, to behave toward the world as God does, to shine on the good and evil alike gives us eyes to see with, ears to hear. You begin to lose your life—your opinions, your fake and precious virtue—your identity, as Keats said—and so you find your life, your true life, the perfected identity God made in you from the start. You become like a little child again. You recapture the idea of yourself that lived in God’s mind even before he formed you in the womb.
