Whereas I saw everything in my life as something that could be optimized: Was Berlin really the best city? Was this the best part of town, was this the thinnest I could be, were these the coolest friends I could hope to have? Milosh reflexively, unthinkingly did what I find hardest: He accepted reality with ease and grace. He committed to and invested in his real life without fantasizing about the one he ought to be living.
