When You're Ready, This Is How You Heal

by Brianna Wiest

piecing together the full truth

They are not immune to sadness or grief or fear. They are just not controlled by those experiences any longer.

without the ability to move through the feelings that may accompany our experiences in real time, we often become trapped in the old stories we once wove around them.

Your first purpose is to heal.

If you cannot imagine how else you might leave a legacy, help others, or do something meaningful with your life, the most important place to start is within yourself.

which is the piece of you that had to break off and build a wall around your heart because behind it was a wound

you did not yet know how to heal.

Sure, everyone evolves and adapts over time, but if you aren’t intentional about it, you’ll end up the product of who and what is around you as opposed to an authentic expression of who you really are.

We can’t salvage it just because we’ve spent so much time believing in it. Sometimes, even the things we’ve given everything to are just not what’s best for us long-term.

It’s hard to let go, but it’s harder not to.

You are giving precedence to what you believed first. The brain tends to prioritize and overvalue whatever it is that we did, knew, saw or learned first.

Whatever you were exposed to first or believed in first is going to take precedence in your mind. It’s important that you’re aware of this, because when a better option presents itself, you have to be able to see it for what it is.

“This moment is not your life, this is a moment in your life.” — Ryan Holiday

You’re using self-reflection as an escape mechanism, rather than a way to actually change your life.

The right things don’t often have to be chased, but rather, pursued.

They don’t have to be convinced to stay, but rather, committed to.