Do you feel good when your home is clean and laundry is folded? Ask yourself why. It is one thing to feel the pleasure of having a functional space (it’s easier to find my things; I’m not tripping over toys; my toddler has better focus when the room isn’t cluttered; I have space to work on my hobbies) and quite another to feel the satisfaction of having met a moral standard (I’m good enough; I’m a good mom today; I am meeting expectations; I’m a “real” adult). What you say to yourself when your house is clean fuels what you say to yourself when it’s dirty. If you’re good when it’s clean, you
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