So throw away what you think care tasks “should” look like and work towards a way of doing them that works for you. The goal is not to do them to Martha Stewart’s standards. Your goal should be to get something functional out of your space. So while doing a pile of laundry may feel like an accomplishment, it is valid to launder three pairs of underwear as a form of self-care. You have full permission to do a little, do it with shortcuts, and do the bare minimum. Perfectionism is debilitating. I want you to embrace adaptive imperfection. We aren’t settling for less; we are engaging in adaptive
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