This requires time and gentleness with yourself, and remembering that the new person you love now and the person you loved then are not the same. Gaining a loving, supportive relationship does not mean forgetting or rejecting the one that came before. A new relationship is ripe with new things to be learned, and many adjustments have to be made in order to be present in the current relationship and not to live in the virtual reality of the previous one. For those who are supporting someone who is grieving, there is real benefit in listening and offering encouragement, without judging when it
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