All of these topics of rumination are actually questions that cannot be answered, which is why they can persist indefinitely. There is no answer to whether the death was unfair, because there are many facets of unfairness. There is no answer to all the ways that their death has robbed your life of its meaning or joy, because losing a loved one brings an infinite number of changes. The sneaky problem with rumination is that while one is ruminating, it feels as though you are seeking out the truth of the matter. The point is that the thoughts are prolonging our sad or irritable mood, not whether
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