we also face what Stroebe and Schut called restoration-oriented stressors. These are all the tasks that we now have to do because the person is gone. Restoration stressors include practical things that you are not used to doing, or at least not doing alone, such as figuring out your taxes or shopping for groceries. In the case of losing a spouse, you not only have to learn to live without your friend and lover, but also without the person who used to do housework, say, or without a co-parent. For an older couple, widowhood might mean living without a significant support for our health issues,
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