When a loved one has passed away, we may feel that we are no longer close, but our brain cannot believe it is because “closeness” no longer applies. Instead, our brain may believe it is because they are upset with us, or that they are being distant. If they are not responding to us, even though we logically know that they cannot, then our brain may believe we are not trying hard enough to reach them, not appealing fervently enough to them to come back to us.
