We can also allow our interactions with our beloved ones who are gone to grow and change, even if only in our minds. This transformation of our relationship with them can affect our capacity to live fully in the present, and to create aspirations for a meaningful future. It can also help us to feel more connected to them, to the best parts of them. It can allow us to become the best daughter, son, friend, spouse, or parent they would have wanted us to be if they had lived to see it. Our love for them is still there, but we must find a different way to express it, a different outlet for our
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