When considered from the brain’s perspective, our brain is accessing our thoughts of our loss over and over again. It does the same for important positive events. It is still unpleasant to be caught off guard and have your thoughts and feelings turn to grief. But your brain is bringing them up in order to try to understand what happened, in the same way that you may share memories and stories with friends to talk them through and gain a deeper understanding. When you think of intrusive thoughts this way, it feels more normal that they happen: your brain is doing this for a reason. They seem
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