So Long, Chester Wheeler

by Catherine Ryan Hyde

“People think complaining about a bad thing will make them feel better. But it just stokes it. It keeps it alive. It’s like feeding it.

Don’t give the guy so much space in your head. You want to be keeping better things in there, right?”

There’s a time in the middle of our lives when we tend to have it under good control, but coming into the world and going out of the world, we’re much more vulnerable. We need help. And being willing to be that help for someone is a very high calling, in my opinion. It’s really the purest definition of the word serve.”

I got that when a person is rude and abusive to me, it’s not about me at all. They can say something terrible to me or about me, but they’re revealing themselves, not me. It has nothing to do with me. They’re just showing me the landscape on the inside of themselves as they project it out onto somebody else.