The secret to keeping the scales of power tipped to my advantage is to switch up the intensity: if every week were like this one, she would be exhausted and numb to everything. So, after a particularly grueling week—a crescendo from Monday to Sunday—I have to ease up on her. That way she lets her guard down, puts things in perspective, remembering that she and I do have good moments. She even guilts herself: How could she have been so angry at me when I’m such a loving husband?
