There’s a half-life to everything. In my experience it takes most people about a year and a half before they can start thinking about something new. There’s a reason people in some cultures wear black for twelve months after a death. That’s how long it takes to come to terms with this kind of loss. The first three to six months will creep by as you get over the initial shock, the denial and possibly anger, the gnashing of teeth and tearing of hair when you see what they’re doing to your baby. It will also take you that long to get through the list of crap you’ve been meaning to do but had been
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