I’ve found it necessary to balance the desire of wanting my becoming to end with an arrival that is solid, stationary, and concrete with the reality that it is more malleable than this. If we are taught that our becoming must be like the traditional story with a beginning, arc, and singular ending, becoming can feel limiting. We want our stories to end with a final understanding, but sometimes there is no clear-cut ending. Instead, it might be “to be continued” or “and so . . .” or “but yet and still.” Because even in our becoming, and in our arrival, we are still learning.
