How to Raise an Intuitive Eater: Raising the next generation with food and body confidence

by Sumner Brooks

Using the Triad of Connection, you can perceive, make sense of, and respond to what you see in your child’s behavior. Don’t react to eating behaviors; create some space when you notice your urge to react, and try to understand what could be going on that is leading your child to feel the need to use food to cope or soothe. If you notice they may be eating to soothe or eating for reasons other than hunger, direct your attention to finding out what they need, what the source of their discomfort is, and what you can do to support them, and resist any urge to talk about their eating during a vulnerable time. The eating isn’t a behavior to fix; it’s actually a very understandable human response to an unmet need—we want to check in with our child and really see what it is they’re trying to self-soothe for. If they are open with you about their eating, telling you they’re upset about it, be curious and non-judgmental. Most importantly, don’t collude with diet mentality if they suggest to you they want to try to lose weight or eat healthier. Simply remind them they can eat however feels best for their body, in a way that is satisfying, enjoyable, and energizing. Check in with why they may be feeling compelled to diet or alter the way they are eating, as this can be a response to bullying, stress, or other negative situations too.