Every time your child hears you say Just one when they ask for another dinner roll, they are hearing you say, I can’t let you have as many as you want, because the amount you want is too much and that’s not a decision you can make. They feel both controlled and incompetent, and over time, they begin to believe this as truth. Then when their body wants more bread, or pasta or cookies, they have an internal conflict between what they want to eat to feel satisfied and what their internal narrative is telling them about being able to trust themselves. Over time, the use of even a simple
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